Treating ourselves kindly can be hard. Sometimes the diet is the easy part!

But poor self-esteem and low confidence can affect every area of our lives- from self-worth to eating habits.

Loving ourselves is SO important and we’ve got to work at it!

That’s why I wanted to share some of my favorite self-love resources with you.


Self-love is an interesting concept.  Why does it seem so much easier to love others and give them affection than it is to love ourselves?

As women, we tend to walk around mentally beating ourselves up over the TINIEST THINGS.

It’s not fair.  It isn’t right.  And we’ve got to stop it.

I beat myself up for years before I finally figured this out.

My process of learning to love myself and the lessons I encountered were some of what inspired me to write my book, Sexy By Nature (find it here).

In that process, I read several other books like Smile Across Your Heart: The Process of Building Self-Love (find it here) where I learned concretely how to build an attitude of self-love, even when my mind wanted to work against me.

Sue Thoelle’s The Courage to Be Yourself: A Woman’s Guide to Emotional Strength and Self-Esteem  (find it on Amazon here) taught me the value of courage, and how important it is for embracing who we are and living that out in the real world.

Emotional Eating

But what about our relationship with food?

Sometimes we use food as a way to stuff our feelings, find a sense of control, and search for acceptance and love.

If binge and restrict dieting or emotional eating have taken over your life, there are several LIFE CHANGING books that can help you.

If food has become your replacement for love, the very insightful Geneen Roth is the best place to start.  Her original When Food is Love (find it on Amazon here) is one of my favorite books.

It helped me understand the deepest wounds within my soul that were being acted out on my dinner plate.

Breaking Free from Emotional Eating (find it here) is another classic from her and Why Weight? A Workbook for Ending Compulsive Eating (found here) gave me the practical tools to help put an end to my emotional eating roller coaster.

If you need daily support, Food For Thought: Daily Meditations for Emotional Eaters (find it here) is perfect for a small little gem of self-love and healing everyday.

My good friend Summer Innanen offers the 21 Step Body Image Remix which is an absolutely wonderful, hilarious resource for anyone who is looking to overcome body image issues related to emotional eating with a sense of humor!

She’ll take you through 21 days of learning to kick ass and get to a place where you can ditch your scale!  And I promise, it will actually be FUN!

(PS. You get a version of this awesome program FREE when you buy Weight Loss Unlocked!)

((Find the 21 Step Body Image Remix here and Weight Loss Unlocked here))

All of these resources are a beautiful support for any woman overcoming emotional eating.

If self-love is a struggle for you, I urge you to read some of these books.  Words can’t express how much they’ve helped me personally.

Always Remember:


Don’t let anyone, including yourself, tell you differently.

What are your favorite self-love resources?  Have you read any of these?  Share your insights into self-love in the comments below!

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